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Cutting Through The Overgrown Self-Help Field: Finding The Books That Speak To You
The self-help book field is huge and only getting bigger as more people accept a wider range of ideas about happiness and self-awareness. For people just figuring out that they may need some help in finding their inner happiness, the array of books available can be enough to make them delay picking up even one book. Everyone starts somewhere, and if you know to look for a few things ahead of time, your path to the best books will move a lot more quickly.
It's OK to Choose a Different Book
Sometimes self-help books present theories that don't sit well with a reader. It can take a couple of read-throughs to fully understand what the author means, but often, that gives the reader a better understanding of the book's points. Yet other books just don't click with the reader. If you're reading something that simply isn't connecting with you, it's OK to choose another book. There's no shame in deciding that you'd rather check out another author's work. Learning to find the happiness within you is a highly personal experience, and it's totally OK if you decide to move on from this or that author's work.
Two Types of Sentiment
Part of the problem with some of the self-help field is that the root of the issues that block your inner happiness often gets assigned in a truly terrible way. There is a very big difference between saying that you've felt unhappy because you did not know how to move on from a past hurt, and saying that you've felt unhappy because you simply didn't try hard enough. Books that acknowledge that you may feel a certain way because of a past hurt and can now move on from it in a healthy way are much more welcoming than those that try to assign actual blame, which can perpetuate a low-level state of unhappiness.
This is not to say that you should never avoid people who have truly hurt you. Someone may legally be to blame for a bad situation. But internally, to move forward, for yourself you have to start thinking ahead. It's like the difference between filing a complaint with a company and simply "complaining" about bad service to no one who can do anything about it. One moves you forward toward happiness; the other keeps you where you are.
How Much Does the Book Rely on "Fault"?
Also, be aware of how the book treats fault and your feelings. Let's say you're run down after a week of being bullied by neighbors, co-workers, employers, and even the cashiers at the local market. Does the book tell you that of course they bullied you, your low self-esteem attracted them and made you into a target? Or does the book say yes, there may have been an attraction or connection that made them notice you more than others, but you can change that and that you deserve better treatment? If you accept that your bad treatment is your fault somehow, that's not a very smooth path to inner happiness. Acknowledging a level of connection but knowing that it's not something you "asked for" is very different and gives you tools to move ahead into better interactions. Good self-help books make you feel empowered and calm, and they make you feel like things can really get better in a peaceful way.
You will find at least one author whose work resonates with you. Keep at it and realize that this is a journey that will take you to some interesting inner places. For more information on books on finding happiness within yourself, contact your local book store today.